Comments on: Apparently, marrying for money is okay…and feminist! http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/ A blog/community created for teenage girls who care about their rights as women and want to be heard. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:18:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anna http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/comment-page-1/#comment-29947 Anna Wed, 11 May 2011 04:56:35 +0000 http://thefbomb.org/?p=754#comment-29947 Why is it so understood that we will even get married? Have children? Why is this still assumed to be the main goal in life for women? Why do you even have to marry if you are in love, putting it into a legal context? Marriage and children, why not do something else.... Why is it so understood that we will even get married? Have children? Why is this still assumed to be the main goal in life for women? Why do you even have to marry if you are in love, putting it into a legal context? Marriage and children, why not do something else….

]]> By: allie http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/comment-page-1/#comment-25426 allie Mon, 21 Feb 2011 17:34:28 +0000 http://thefbomb.org/?p=754#comment-25426 i agree with you on this I also think there’s something essentially classist about this argument. A privileged white girl wants to maintain her privileges…so she’ll just marry a privileged white man. It’s just not like that for everybody. i think we as a society really do value money and thats a little sad. i'm white and my parents were divorced and we really didn't have that much money because my dad spent to much on crap so for me i would like a man who spends carefully but that doesn't mean i want a man who makes more than me. your kids don't need their own car, sorry they don't, i didn't until i was 17 and that was a used car my mom gave me so she could get a new one. the one i have now i'm paying for. i didn't go to summer camp, mission trips yes, but i paid for that privilage. my parents did not hand me a dime for things like going out with friends i learned to pay for it myself. yes finances are important in a relationship but so is likeing and loving that person. if my heart isn't in it, just can't do it. i agree with you on this
I also think there’s something essentially classist about this argument. A privileged white girl wants to maintain her privileges…so she’ll just marry a privileged white man. It’s just not like that for everybody.
i think we as a society really do value money and thats a little sad. i’m white and my parents were divorced and we really didn’t have that much money because my dad spent to much on crap so for me i would like a man who spends carefully but that doesn’t mean i want a man who makes more than me. your kids don’t need their own car, sorry they don’t, i didn’t until i was 17 and that was a used car my mom gave me so she could get a new one. the one i have now i’m paying for. i didn’t go to summer camp, mission trips yes, but i paid for that privilage. my parents did not hand me a dime for things like going out with friends i learned to pay for it myself. yes finances are important in a relationship but so is likeing and loving that person. if my heart isn’t in it, just can’t do it.

]]> By: A http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/comment-page-1/#comment-12388 A Thu, 16 Sep 2010 03:11:57 +0000 http://thefbomb.org/?p=754#comment-12388 Even if you exclude the feminist aspect completely... What about love? Why not just marry for that? Even if you exclude the feminist aspect completely… What about love? Why not just marry for that?

]]> By: Marly http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/comment-page-1/#comment-273 Marly Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:38:08 +0000 http://thefbomb.org/?p=754#comment-273 I have read this article and in the author's defense she does state that her profession is in journalism, which does not pay much. Also, one of the main reasons married couples argue (and may eventually divorce) has to due with financial issues, therefore, one does have to marry a person who wants the same lifestyle and goals as them whether they are material or not. Love and commitment are large components in choosing a partner in life but serious issues such as finace, how many children (if they want any), how to raise them, religion to practice, etc should be discussed before one does get married. I have read this article and in the author’s defense she does state that her profession is in journalism, which does not pay much.
Also, one of the main reasons married couples argue (and may eventually divorce) has to due with financial issues, therefore, one does have to marry a person who wants the same lifestyle and goals as them whether they are material or not.
Love and commitment are large components in choosing a partner in life but serious issues such as finace, how many children (if they want any), how to raise them, religion to practice, etc should be discussed before one does get married.

]]> By: Bethany Elfrink http://thefbomb.org/2009/07/apparently-marrying-for-money-is-okay-and-feminist/comment-page-1/#comment-140 Bethany Elfrink Thu, 09 Jul 2009 20:01:06 +0000 http://thefbomb.org/?p=754#comment-140 Right on! Right on!

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