Awareness, Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 07/30/2009

Assiya Rafiq is my hero

Assiya Rafiq in front of her mother, Iqbal Mai

Assiya Rafiq in front of her mother, Iqbal Mai









Assiya Rafiq of Pakistan was sold at 16 by a female family friend to two criminals who were related to prominent politicians. The men beat and raped her for the next year, until they handed Assiya along with $625 over to police as a bribe. Assiya’s kidnappers had earlier been implicated in a gold robbery and decided Assiya would be a good candidate to blame the crime on. 

Assiya was then beaten and raped by the four police officers, including a police chief, over the next two weeks. Reportedly, a female constable would leave in order to give the men continue their abuse in private.

Assiya’s family learned of Assiya’s whereabouts and attempted to get her back by bribing the bailiff, who was also accepting bribes from the police. Despite the police hiding Assiya and locking up her young brother as a threat, her parents finally got her back and helped her receive a medical exam and investigation, which proved her hymen had been broken and confirmed the existence of physical damage such as abrasions covering her body. 

And then Assiya summoned the type of strength I can’t even fathom. She proceeded to prosecute both the kidnappers and the police, ignoring the normal process of rape recovery in rural Pakistan: suicide. Not only is this a girl who is taking hugely progressive steps, but she is turning her own awful experience into a beacon of hope for other girls, even despite the major adversity she will inevitably face. The president of the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists of Pakistan, Dr. Shershah Syed even stated, “When I treat a rape victim, I always advise her not to go to the police, because if she does, the police might just rape her again.” 

And while the police have not raped her again, they have threatened to. They have also threatened to arrest or kill her and her two younger sisters lest she withdraw her charges. 

The family is in hiding, but still in a lot of danger, and has accumulated thousands of dollars in debts. Assiya’s siblings have dropped out of school and will have trouble marrying because they are “dishonored.” Though Assiya stated she was inspired by Mukhtar Mai, a young woman who was gang raped in 2002, prosecuted her attackers and used the compensation money to start a school, women’s shelter, ambulance service, and legal aid program (which is now helping Assiya with her case), Mukhtar was very lucky in the results of her fight. Assiya has a long road ahead, and is still in constant danger. 

She is luck, however, in the sense that she has an amazing family behind her. Her mother, Iqbal, said that she once thought God should never give daughters to poor families, but then, “changed my mind. God should give poor people daughters like Assiya who will fight.” 

I’m so amazed by Assiya. There really aren’t adequate words. Whoever says women aren’t strong and resilient should take a look at Assiya, and Mukhtar for that matter. 

I found this story through Nicholas Kristof’s column, and he gives an update on the situation here. Also, to help Assiya and Mukhtar, please consider giving to the Mukhtar Mai fund, set up through MercyCorps. Money is being used to help hide Assiya and her family and hire lawyers for her.

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  • Maureen at IslandRoar @ at 4:25 pm, July 30th, 2009

    Wow, this is powerful.
    Thanks for enlightening us.

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  • Keysha @ at 6:36 pm, August 1st, 2009

    I’m in tears for her, but smiling because of her strength and resolve.

  • earwicga @ at 10:11 am, August 2nd, 2009

    I have written about Assiya Rafiq and Mukhtar Mai on my own blog – very brave women!

    Have you heard of RAWA – feminists in Afghanistan and also Malalai Joya? Also in Sudan this week a woman called Lubna Hussein is challenging the state’s right to stop her wearing trousers, she will probably be lashed for this, although she could have claimed immunity through her job with the UN, she and 3 other women have chosen to go to court to fight back against the patriachy – very brave!

    Just found your blog and have to say good job!

  • earwicga @ at 10:16 am, August 2nd, 2009

    Just looking through you weblinks, and felt compelled to add that ‘feministing’ is not a feminist site. It is pseudo feminism at its worst!

  • thebeatles11 @ at 12:59 am, August 3rd, 2009

    Assiya is one truly amazing woman. Her strength and courage is honestly nothing short of inspiring. Her story left me in tears.

  • shani @ at 12:31 am, September 8th, 2009

    shr is a froud lady i personaly know her.

  • anjum @ at 6:14 am, September 12th, 2009

    she is a froud lady i personely know her.

  • A @ at 11:08 pm, September 15th, 2010

    That is an astounding story. That woman is postively remarkable. I feel awful just, like, sitting here writing this while she’s being so brave…

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