Comments on: (500) Days of Summer is revenge disguised as a cute, indie movie

By: HK

HK — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 04:36:55 +0000

Yeah, she is very damaged… and passive aggressive. I dated somebody like this and here is the REAL outcome had, say, Tom met Autumn BEFORE Summer married a dude. So my ‘Summer’ strung me along for months, doing the exact same things (I don’t want a relationship, I just don’t see you like that… but let’s get a room in new york as a xmas gift to each other and go see a play!), being cagey about what she wanted, and instead of letting me be and leaving me the hell alone, she’d always creep back into my life while still in a weakened state. Which, to me, was like crack. And because we really weren’t a ‘couple’, I eventually said screw it and went and started dating other people like she had asked me to do many times. Lo and behold, I met the woman I’ve been married to for five years now. My ‘Summer’ pretended to be happy, they even met once, but then she did something that was the last straw… six months into my relationship, Summer, now officially my ‘friend’ told me to clear a week on my calendar to stay with her at her mom’s place in Florida. I said, “Are you crazy? Do you know how inappropriate that is? What do you think my girlfriend will say?” She goes, “Oh, well of course she’s invited too…” Long story short, that was total bullshit and she knew I caught her and called her out on it… this bitch saw that I was pulling away and fast, couldn’t handle it, and then tried to sabotage my relationship to get her ‘fun friend’ back. We talked a few more times and each time, she became more inappropriate, until i cut her off… she continued to call me once a month or so for a year, each leaving messages as though nothing had happened, like, “hey buddy, just wanted to see how you’re doing, call me!” Last I heard, she also met someone and is married, but the TOXIC aspect of someone like Summer is what some of you don’t seem to get. She’s ENTITLED… she’s BROKEN, as others have said, and she just wants what she wants, regardless of others feelings. When a man OR a woman does it, it’s shitty, and that’s life, but don’t act like this character was a healthy person mentally.

By: KS

KS — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:51:51 +0000

I really liked this movie. Partially because we rarely see men genuinely mourning over a woman in films. I also liked that Summer was very articulate in how she felt. She also ends up in a marriage, which I liked, since there’s a stereotypical image that women who are strong will not get married.

If you’re looking for a great movie about marriage in terms of egalitarian relationship, Away We Go is the way to go.

By: Quincy

Quincy — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:22:37 +0000

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By: Tim Brown

Tim Brown — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 21:06:06 +0000

I totally agree with Jane on her first point. The bitch line is uttered by Tom’s funny looking co-worker, Mackenzie, because she blows off some other guy chatting her up. However, she does not blow off Tom, but instead chases him. I don’t see this role reversal thing, women can be like this, pretending to be less interested in sex and romance than the man. Summer is indeed very damaged,and not “strong”, and that i think is the film’s point. She is far from being as casual as she pretends, and I think she harbours a lot of resentment towards Tom, shown by the closing scenes.

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 07:56:44 +0000

1. Summer isn’t “strong.” She’s damaged and clearly a commitment phobe.

2. “In a guy’s head, it’s never that the girl is simply not interested, she’s just plain evil.”

Grow a sense of humor. It was clearly a tongue and cheek scene. Tom was being an idiot and his friends ridiculed him for it. No one seriously thinks a girl is a “bitch” or “evil” because she fails to respond or notice a guy’s interest.

3. When a guy strings a woman along for sex and a few good times, he’s a douche bag but a lot of woman seem to think it’s cool when Summer does it cause it’s “role reversal.”

4. The screen writer is pretty up front about it being a story from a singular perspective.

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By: positively present

positively present — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 03:47:09 +0000

Your post really made me think. I saw this movie awhile ago and really enjoyed it, but, as a feminist, I’m appalled that I missed some pretty important aspects of the film that I don’t at all agree with. Thanks for bringing these ideas to my attention!

By: Lolita Hazed

Lolita Hazed — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 23:07:44 +0000

My Mother’s Red Hat FTW

By: Zoe

Zoe — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 20:49:31 +0000

I really loved 500 Days of Summer. I won’t lie about that. It was seriously adorable and as me and my friend put it, a movie about “life.” The relationship started, hit it’s peak, crashed and burned and then everyone moves on and realizes life keeps going.

I do agree that there were parts that were seriously strange. Like at the beginning when Summer was referred to as a bitch or a slut because she didn’t catch on to Tom’s “obvious” flirtation. In a guy’s head, it’s never that the girl is simply not interested, she’s just plain evil. Also, Tom seemed obsessive and somewhat misogynous.

The gender roles were certainly flipped, which was a positive aspect. Summer was the strong character who didn’t need commitment till she wanted it while Tom was desperately needy. Summer’s character overall was very strong and you couldn’t help but notice that, no matter how Tom portrayed her.

Despite some flaws, I love this movie and it’s going on the top of my list.

By: K8 AH

K8 AH — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 18:52:44 +0000

Have not seen it but totally get the idea… I didn’t see what the big deal was about Garden State either?! I saw that My Mother’s Red Hat on Girl Drive yesterday and was LMAO! Love it!