Personally, I don’t want to be married as a logical debate (see above) and I passionately, adamantly do not want children under both logical and emotional considerations. Just as K8 AH does, I harbor distaste for the lack of respect these views get. It’s a matter of inexperience, of “Oh, no. Nobody actually wants that. Just wait a bit and you will be a happy baby machine.”

This sort of view is just as prevalent in education. “Oh, no post secondary? You are probably just a troglodyte then, couldn’t understand difficult textbook words.” Anything you want to do in life that is not Work or Family is Not Okay.

It’s a social change, though. The options are all technically there. You don’t have to have kids, and you don’t have to be a lawyer. You can’t change what others think, so what can you do?

Personally I stick to the “screw them, do it anyway” philosophy, but it’s no less aggravating.

I have posted here before but I wanted to ask as many of you as possible, to read my blog and tell me what you think of it. Does it sound sexist to you? Would you be interested in a man like I describe a great husband to be? I am very interested in another perspective.

Please check out the blog and let me know your thoughts. I really value any feedback you have.

http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com

Thanks again for the many of you that have visited in the past.

Ken

Anyways, I’ve had the same problem. Everyone assumes I’m going to come around and get married. My extended family, my mother, my father, my shrink. They’ve stopped trying to convince me that I’ll change my mind about not having kids, but they still think that getting married is going to happen.

I don’t want marriage. I mean, if I’ve been living with somebody for several years, and want to put them in charge of my organs should I die, or give them visiting rights, I’ll probably get married, but that’s coincidental. It’s not a goal. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, that’s great, too.

We also are of the belief that having children can ruin some perfectly good relationships; neither of us want them. My husband is a child of divorce and definitely sees the potentially “disastrous” time that having children could be too. So, it was really offensive that when we did get married everyone kept asking, “so when are you going to start having babies?” (Insert big stupid grin). “Um, we don’t plan to have children.” “What!?!? You will change your mind.” “No, actually we are pretty sure about this.” “Oh you have to have , children, it changes your life!” “I don’t want to change my life.” Blah Blah Blah… exchanging of disturbed looks… things went on like this for a few years. I think people are finally starting to believe us. I am 30 and we have been married for almost 7 years now and we don’t even have a dog.

We are in a band together, we tour around the country playing rock/electronic music, we don’t have health insurance and we keep separate bank accounts. We live a little differently and it is starting to be hard to find friends who also do not particularly relish the idea of children consuming their entire life…

The bottom line is that when it comes to how to live your life people should not do things according to how they think they are “supposed to.” Getting married and having children simply because society makes you think that you are “supposed to” is the true recipe for disaster.

Live in a way that makes you happy and you will be complete!

Oh, bravo.

I also would like to beat Stephanie Meyer over the head, too. The Twilight Saga blows dogs for quarters.