Comments on: A Rant

By: RebJ

RebJ — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:51:34 +0000

“Steph, men and women are different, and as much as feminists want to change it, we can’t.”

Yeah we feminists should just keep indulging those immature menzz cuz we communicate better and multitask and ask for directions!

Gender binary, anyone?

By: Erin

Erin — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 05:53:57 +0000

I wouldn’t necessarily settle for Jenna’s argument — “Men aren’t like that.” I’ve never been a great cook, and I’ve been in 2 serious relationships where my boyfriend happily, and lovingly, did most of the the cooking. There was balance in our relationship– we never *expected* this of each other. It seems like the issue here is not whether the man or woman cooks, it’s primarily that someone is taking something for granted. I’m now in a serious relationship where my boyfriend is very loving and considerate, but I happen to be the more creative cook. Therefore, for the first time I find I’m the main cook in the relationship– but that’s fine. There’s balance, he helps, and he never *expects* this of me– he’s willing to cook if I can’t or don’t want to. And that’s key for me– I wouldn’t let a guy get away with being lazy and taking things for granted, and trust me, you don’t have to either.

By: Rex

Rex — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 07:34:58 +0000

“You know what I’m tired of? My girlfriend immediately looking at me when something breaks. Like I’m supposed to be the Maytag repairman just because I have a penis.”

C’mon. relationships are give and take. How many things does your boyfriend do for you?

However, if you answer “Nothing” then mabye you need to go dude shopping.

I think I’ll go make a sandwich now…

By: natasha

natasha — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:12:22 +0000

i hate cooking. id just throw a pop tart at him.

By: kenzie

kenzie — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 19:01:48 +0000

eh, let me rephrase that last part. when you are in a relationship, especially when you live together AND enjoy cooking, etc, you usually are not cooking only for one person. if i cook, i make sure theres some for boyfriend. when boyfriend cooks, there will obviously be plenty for me as well. maybe he truly enjoys your sandwiches? just make sure there is balance. maybe hes good at back rubs? or maybe teach him how to cook and enjoy it together? or tell him to fuck off.

By: kenzie

kenzie — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:58:21 +0000

i totally agree with jenna. if you’re tired of it, don’t do it, i don’t see why this is an issue. i enjoy baking my boyfriend brownies because i can bake and i love him. people who love to cook/bake usually don’t prepare meals for themselves.

By: Jenna

Jenna — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:55:52 +0000

Steph, men and women are different, and as much as feminists want to change it, we can’t.

I said she should talk to her boyfriend. But unless he’s incredibly mature and willing to change, nothing’s going to happen.

Girls want their boyfriends/husbands to be like their girlfriends. We expect them to listen and help us and care about everything. Men aren’t like that, and if you need that, then yeah, you might as well be a lesbian.

By: Steph

Steph — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 20:16:34 +0000

@Jenna: I think that’s a totally baseless argument. You’re saying that a)all men are poorly-communicating doofuses, b)that’s ok because that’s just how men are, nothing we can do about it, that’s just how it is, c) all women CAN communicate well(and therefore those who don’t aren’t women), and most importantly, that disliking the way things are can only be solved by lesbianism, becuase, y’know, conversation with your boyfriend shouldn’t be an option. EVAR.

Also, wth was with that comment at Bacchus? Just because he cooks for his wife, doesn’t mean he’s less of a man. In my family, cooking has always been a strictly male role for as long as I’ve known, and going back to my grandparents as well – cooking was MEN’s work. Maybe that’s how Bacchus’s family is run – if not, still doesn’t matter, because saying that men who cook are whipped is akin to saying that cooking is women’s work.

So, far as I can tell, your post is advocating that 1)cooking is women’s work, 2) that Shenae should just shut up and make him a sandwich, 3) all women are the same and all men are the same, forever, and 4) women who ‘complain’ about this are stuck in a mindset where they are “victims” (even though some of them might very well be such victims to patriarchal notions).

Honestly, if you tried to come out with a more offensive yet presumably well-meaning post, I’m not sure you could do any better(worse?) than this.

By: Jenna

Jenna — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 15:46:41 +0000

Well, part of love is doing things for the person you love.

Your boyfriend is giving you a compliment, dear. Boys are notoriously bad at communicating. He’s not going to say, “Darling, I just love your sandwiches, and I’d really like one now. I don’t want you to make me one because you’re a woman, but because of how good yours taste.” That’s how a woman would get that point across, so if that’s the way you want someone to talk to you, I suggest you become a lesbian ASAP. If you still want to be a straight girl, you’re going to have to accept that men have trouble communicating, particularly with women. Your boyfriend is trying to compliment you. Get out of the victim mindset and accept it.

And Bacchus, wtf. Somebody’s whipped, yes?

By: Sky

Sky — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 06:50:26 +0000

my boyfriend is the same, everytime he wants something he asks me or his mom to get it. Want a beer? Go get it yourself. I’m nobody’s Beer Bitch.