Comments on: What My Husband Thinks

By: Vicky

Vicky — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 01:19:29 +0000

Oh hell no !
Don’t let him treat you like that , Stand up for yourself otherwise he’s gonna keep walking all over you. Marrage should be a partnership not domestic slavery. Tell him to get off his ass and do his share!

And no it’s not normal. My bf and I sometimes talk about living together/ getting married and its always been understood that chores and housework should be balanced between both partners as evenly as possible.

I can’t really judge because i havent met you or your husband but he seems very immature.

By: Cara

Cara — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 05:22:58 +0000

OK so I was angry when I read this article but nowhere near as angry as how I now feel after reading these comments. All of you people who come from families where everything was split down the middle live a life very different to many others. My mum did all the household chores (though she did pay me and my sister pocket money to help) while dad did none. He worked 6 days a week in a labour intensive job but mum worked 5 days a week in the office as it was a family business. That’s just how things were and how things were for all of my friends too. I am not saying that’s how it ought to be though – not at all. My boyfriend hs this mentality and I am constantly trying to beat it out of him (figuratively, that is). The OP’s hubby needs to know he’s doing wrong and that she will not take it. Divorce is NOT the first and omly solution because lcearly there’s a loving relationship there and him being lazy ain’t all there is going on in this marriage.
If he refuses to change then that’s when she needs to make some big decisions. If he trully loves her as she seems to love him, then he’ll do something about his childish attitude, but the key is to discuss it first an let him KNOW just how detrimental he is being to their relationship!

By: Empathy: An Antidote to “Othering”

Empathy: An Antidote to “Othering” — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 14:41:46 +0000

[...] from church and society. For an extreme case that illustrates the problem, check out this letter from a young wife and the accompanying comments that were posted just this month on “The F Bomb” (“F” for [...]

By: NewsCat

NewsCat — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:15:12 +0000

Just found this blog.

It true that those jumping to “divorce” are jumping the gun quite a bit. But it does sound like the marriage needs conseling or at least some geniue communication. What it sounds like is the husband how transfered “mommy” duties to his wife. Which is fine if you want to be a mother to your new husband for the next 50 years. If you are happy with this situation (and we know you aren’t because you wrote this blog piece) then only you have the ability to change it. First you do have to talk to him about this. And it might help to set up time with a marriage conselor (if he won’t go, you should go yourself). There are a lot of issues going around and it would help to have a professional to help you sort it all out.

But this situation will not change on its own. Why should it? He’s got a pretty sweet deal it sounds like. You do all the cooking, cleaning and bring home the bacon as well. What motivation does he have to change it?

By: Isa

Isa — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 10:09:37 +0000

Ugh. This is not ‘normal.’ My husband is not like this at all.

Your husband is selfish, lazy and chauvinistic.

By: TJ

TJ — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:15:51 +0000

You sound like a professional victim complaining about the problems YOU CREATED for yourself. As always, Feminism coddles women and completely absolves them of blame. They become entitlement-minded spoiled children thinking they deserve that men have had to EARN. Manhood101 . com

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 23:35:54 +0000

Yikes, that would not work for me. I’d do my own laundry and if he wanted clean clothes, well, he should know where the machines and detergent are by now

By: olivia

olivia — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 18:42:26 +0000

not that I support those stereotypes. But I mean, even if you play along, you still lose.

…I may not be expressing this well.

By: olivia

olivia — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 18:41:36 +0000

Oh man. I love (SARCASM) how you get held to female stereotypes, while he doesn’t even bother to hold himself to the male ones. I mean, it’s bad enough he’s expecting you to be the housewife, but somehow he ALSO slides by without being the breadwinner? *sigh* i wish I knew what to tell you.

By: Brandon

Brandon — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 12:08:58 +0000

@Taylor: Ya, cause being passive aggressive works. That has to be the dumbest idea ever.

@Maggie: There are only two options that I see: You accept it or you divorce him. Don’t pussyfoot around the issue like Taylor said.

Following Taylor’s advice is plain stupid. All you are going to do is piss him off and because he will most likely push back (i.e be passive aggressive back) it will piss you off. All you would be doing is throwing more fuel on the fire.

If you can’t deal with it, then step up and tell him how you feel about it. If he changes, great. Otherwise divorce him and move on with your life. There is no point in getting into a pissing contest with him. Life is too short to be miserable.