Feminism | Posted by Anne C on 06/7/2010

Body Acceptance

love your body

love your body

Body image is an issue for a lot of teenage girls, and especially for me. After struggling with a weird relationship with food for the past few years, I’ve recently tried to stop worrying about what I eat. The plan was to start being nicer to myself and my body and to try to be more accepting of the way I am. Still, I secretly wish I was thinner.

But last night, I had a revelation. After cooking and eating a massive curry with my boyfriend, we were both ridiculously stuffed. We had reached the stage of “food coma.” Immediately after we were finished, I got into the old routine of beating myself up about it. I added up the calories in my head, told myself I should have only eaten half of what I did, and thought about how I was going to cut back on food the next day.

But then I realized that in order to be as thin as I want to be, I wouldn’t be able to cook delicious meals and enjoy them with the people I love. I would have to avoid eating out. If I did want to be social and go to a restaurant with my friends, I would have to order the salad without croutons and with the dressing on the side. I would have to exercise every day, whether I felt like it or not, no matter what the weather. I would have to stop eating meals with my boyfriend, because all he ever wants to eat is pizza and bacon.

I realized, that would be a miserable life. I love eating great food and I love bonding with people. I wouldn’t be happy if I did everything it would take for me to get skinny. It would mean cutting out a lot of the moments I enjoy most in life. So I’ll enjoy my life and embrace the few extra pounds.

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  • Ms. Wizzle @ at 3:09 pm, June 7th, 2010

    Kudos! I think this is something that we all continuously struggle with thanks to all those nasty expectations for women that the media and society pushes on us. I have this discussion with myself on a daily basis.

    I think it’s fantastic that you have given yourself permission to be a human being who enjoys her life. Way to go!

  • Tara @ at 3:37 pm, June 7th, 2010

    Good for you! Back when I was a freshman in high school, I was really obsessed with the food I ate. I always counted calories and ended up eating the most ridiculously small (though nutritionally balanced and healthy) meals I could. I also constantly nagged my friends about their food choices.

    Thankfully, after a few months of this, I had a revelation. I realized that I was happy when I just ate and didn’t worry about the calories or my weight. So I stopped being stupid and started eating freely. :)

  • Samuel W. @ at 10:16 pm, June 7th, 2010

    It’s easier for us guys to accept our bodies than it is for girls, who always get bombarded with messages encouraging them to obsess over this stuff, but that shouldn’t be; women and men should both have the right to either accept themselves for who they are or change their body if they so choose. I couldn’t imagine the pressure that I’d have over me if I were in the same situation as a lot of women & girls in the world today, where they’re under constant pressure to lose weight, gain weight, lose AND gain weight, or whatever. Fact is, that stuff doesn’t matter unless it’s affecting your health badly and profoundly, or if you’re either a scary eighty-five tons or a scarily thin eight pounds. I’m always in the healthy, average 130-something pound range anyways despite all the admitted junk food I eat, so I in particular consider myself to have it pretty sweet since I have nothing to worry about. I just wish it could be that way for everybody else in the world in regards to how they feel about their bodies.

  • Steph B @ at 10:21 pm, June 7th, 2010

    I agree with this SO MUCH.
    I used to watch the calories in my food all the time, and I felt miserable. Now that I cook most of what I eat, I’m cutting out all of the preservatives and chemicals and things and I feel better and healthier, even though I weigh more than I did back then. Actually, not just FEEL, but AM. Rock on, Anne!

  • Hope Springs Internal @ at 7:41 am, June 8th, 2010

    LOVE THIS!!!

  • Allan @ at 4:11 am, June 11th, 2010

    The worst thing, in my opinion, is that the media sells an incorrect idea of what “healthy” foods are. The food pyramid ultimately makes it so people have to exercise a TON to lose weight (all the while, everyone on TV is thin and fit). Fish, fruits, veggies; total elimination of pop and junk food. Superior diet. So simple. Try it hard-line style for 2 weeks. You will feel GREAT and the cravings for crap will go away. I hate seeing people make “fat vs. unhappy” decisions because “happy” foods physically damage mood regulation anyway. Eat like a hunter\gatherer!

  • Erica Lee @ at 10:31 am, June 13th, 2010

    What a cute poster, and a cute post :)
    I agree w/ Allan, I think the media does present a skewed view of a healthy lifestyle. I think a LOT of “being healthy” is in our diet–& that it’s possible to enjoy food, and a good amount of it, without gaining weight. I’d never want to give up going out to eat or cookouts or any of those other fun food-bases social gatherings, either! Instead, i just try to pick the healthier options (I brought my own veggie burgers to grill at a graduation party last night). Where there’s a will, there’s a way!

  • sui @ at 3:27 pm, June 18th, 2010

    I agree with Allan as well!

    My eating used to be totally disordered, it took a lot of loving myself to get better. But I love food, and I love it in that I love food that energizes me, and part of loving yourself is eating food that’s GOOD for you! No need to diet or constantly go to the gym (though moving your body can be fun and good for you!)… just eat delicious, sustainable, and yummy whole foods! :)

  • Mvibes @ at 1:37 pm, June 25th, 2010

    I agree with Allan (I was just
    about to post something similar).
    It is possible for people to be healthy thin without calorie counting and are able to eat delicious meals. There really is a happy medium between skinny/unhappy and fat/delicious foods.

    But Im still glad you are becomming happier with the way you are.

  • Albatross @ at 1:00 pm, June 28th, 2010

    While I agree with what you say on body image, you’ve got to accept that it’s about excercise AND diet, not just one of the two. I’m a UK size 10 and eat exactly the same as I did when I was a size 14… But now I do about 15 hours of intense cardio activity in sport a week.

    While everyone’s different, sod being skinny, really – do. Excercise, REAL excercise (not 5 sit ups every morning, I mean regularly running around with your friends laughing like your life depended on it) and great food will release more endorphins in your system than depriving yourself ever could. I feel like a more compact, fit version of myself, rather than a perfect (but hungry) copy of what the fashion industry dictates is “hot” this week. I recommend it!

  • Danielle @ at 12:31 am, June 30th, 2010

    I’ve been overweight my entire life. Middle school was hell because I was the only “fat girl” in a pool of over 300 students. I’ve managed to lose 70+ pounds (30 of which I stupidly re-gained and am now trying to re-lose), so I definitely know the heartache associated with being overweight, trying to lose weight, dealing with stupid, discriminatory kids, struggling with food, etc. :(

    For a while there I was SO proud of myself because I was eating impeccably (and in my comfort-food-loving family that was no small feat). But toward the end of the school year (when teachers really started piling on the work, and thus, the stress), I slipped back into my “old ways.” I gorged every single day because I was tired and grumpy and those cookies just looked SO GOOD.

    Needless to say, I’m trying to get back on track. But it’s VERY hard. In a single week of dinners I’ve passed up lasagna, spaghetti, burgers, and (for dessert) a 10-lb. ice cream cake. (In fact, just 10 minutes ago my dad popped into my room: “want some cake?” “What do you think?!” Sorry, Dad.)

    My point is, I hope and pray that someday I can get to a point where I’m comfortable just eating normally. Not going overboard, but not counting calories like I’m forced to do now.

    Some people might criticize me for conforming to stereotypes about how girls “should look,” but that’s never been the issue for me. It’s just that when I picture the “future me,” I see someone who is fierce and completely self-confident. And I think I have to make a few sacrifices to get there :(

  • Naveen @ at 8:38 pm, March 28th, 2013

    I do count my calories. I feel happy with my body as I have lost a lot of weight but where I am currently is not accepted by society. I am not fat. I am a UK size 10.However, I just feel really insecure of my body. However, slowly I am starting to stop. Slowly I am leaning to accept myself However one thing worries me and that is will I ever be able to get married? Now, all guys want is looks and to find a guy who cares about your personality is very rare. I am most definitely not confident of myself. I feel that I have to lose more weight in order to feel confident and in doing so, I would have to conform to society’s expectations of women then so be it. However, I believe everyone is human no matter what size, skin colour or religion. We are human and therefore who is ‘society’ to say what is acceptable and what is not. Who is society to decide who is beautiful and who is not. Then again, we have no choice. We live on earth. We have to adapt and that mean adapting to what I and many others are against. That means adapting to fit society’s expectations of us and that, should not have to be the case.

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