Feminism | Posted by Becka W on 03/17/2011

How Do We Solve A Problem Like Kappa Sigma?

Tucker Max: King of Asshole Frat Boys

Tucker Max: King of Asshole Frat Boys

This week, USC’s chapter of Kappa Sigma sent around an e-mail describing how to be an effective “cocksman,” calling a woman’s vagina her “pie” and her mouth/throat a “gullet.” The writer of the e-mail tells his fellow brothers to send him all of their hook-ups in “Tucker Max format” (Tucker Max is a douchebag who notoriously glamorizes his womanizing and drunken antics as epic adventures) and females are “targets” who “aren’t actual people like us men. Consequently, giving them a certain name or distinction is pointless.”

That isn’t even the worst of it. The e-mail classifies women’s “pies” by race, and says “non-consent and rape are two different things,” and includes a rating system to evaluate each woman’s looks. (Read the whole e-mail here on Jezebel). The chapter and the Fraternity Council at the school have condemned the e-mail and sworn up and down that it is no reflection of the community as a whole. I’m sure it isn’t – I have tons of friends who are frat brothers and wonderful people, who consider women as equal participants in society and not just sexual objects.

But this e-mail shows that misogynistic thought is still alive and well in Greek Life. And my question is – why? Greek Life in Universities change hands in leadership every couple of years. The participants are young academics, people with fresh ideas and new outlooks on the world. So why is this archaic way of thinking of women as objects still so prevalent in Fraternities?

Perhaps it’s something to do with a group of men hanging around in general. I know that sometimes, when hanging with a group of girlfriends, we’ll make a couple of jokes about how attractive a certain movie star is, how beautifully chiseled his jaw line may appear. But that can’t possibly describe the whole thing. Is it pressure to be macho; some sort of mystical effect of the mass gathering of Y-Chromosomes?

It’s hard to be sure. But one thing I do know is that it’s up to both parties to fix this problem. Frat Brothers need to be more open-minded and willing to stand up to brothers who make sexist jokes. Women on campuses across the country need to stand up for themselves and be willing to say “that isn’t funny” when jokes say that non-consent is different than rape, or that women aren’t people, they’re pieces of “pie,” objects to be won. College and academia can be the first stop on the road to changing the world, but if we don’t all work together to change the way things are, society will never move forward.

Becka also writes for her own blog, Becka Tells All.

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  • A.Y. Siu @ at 1:22 pm, March 17th, 2011

    Greek Life in Universities change hands in leadership every couple of years. The participants are young academics, people with fresh ideas and new outlooks on the world. So why is this archaic way of thinking of women as objects still so prevalent in Fraternities?

    I think the problem is that fraternities are self-selecting. People who join a particularly sexist fraternity are likely to be sexist themselves (otherwise, why join that one?), and the people who already in an extremely misogynist fraternity are likely to choose new members who fit into the (or at least don’t challenge) the already-existent misogynist culture.

    Also Greek societies pride themselves on secrecy and traditions. Even though these are new young folks with fresh ideas, the main appeal of the Greek society isn’t change and abandoning the past.

  • Juliana @ at 4:08 am, March 20th, 2011

    I absolutely agree, I just don’t get why this continues so effectively. I have friends who are in sororities and I hear horror stories from them that I thought only happened in the movies. I mean, really? How do you reckon living an academic life, one where you are constantly challenged to expand your intelligence, beliefs and perspectives, and then continue to let Greek life happen the way it does?

  • Summer @ at 6:02 pm, March 25th, 2011

    It really is so sad to me that the stereotypical fraternity way of thinking is so prevalant in this young man. It’s sickening to think that he can talk so demeaning and raw about women in such a casual free manner. And people think it is funny. In the context of this email, not one of the boys thought of it as an issue. It was simply a funny game with some clever nicknames. Greeks claim they are about brotherhood and philanthropy. Weird, I see none of that coming out of this immature douchebag’s mouth.

  • Kuro @ at 2:15 pm, June 14th, 2011

    Can’t say I’ve been to college, yet, but I think the seeds might be sown in highschool for overlooking what concensual sex and rape are. I remember in ninth grade speaking to another ninth grader about something I drew – it lead to him concluding that “its not rape if you say ‘surpise’!”
    I’m… still curious about the logic, and he seemed perplexed when I and the guy beside me reacted with horror. I’m still not sure if he thought he was just playing and there was not harm or whether he actually believed it.
    (strangley enough, the drawing had nothing to do with any of these things.)

  • Andrew Hales @ at 8:26 am, December 5th, 2011

    I love your blog. Nice job. :)
    “Fail Harder” – Mark Zuckerberg

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