Feminism | Posted by Dana B on 08/1/2012

Surviving Rape: What I Want Other College Students to Know About Title IX

Title IX: Not Just About Sports

After-rape is to be consumed by emptiness, isolation, fear, shame, and anger.

And after-rape at college is to be confronted by my rapist every day—on the quad, in the library, at breakfast. It is to be ceaselessly reminded of the moments in which power and control were stripped from me, in which I had no option but to let go and resign myself to the fact that this was really happening.

I was raped my sophomore year of college by a male student at my school. In the weeks after the assault, he followed me around campus, physically blocked me from going up the steps into my dorm, and threatened my friends. One Friday at three in the morning, he tried to break into my room while I sat terrified inside.

The rape and harassment changed everything for me. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I stopped studying. School was no longer on my radar screen. I was just trying to make it from one day to the next. I considered dropping out.

I found out about Title IX by chance, through a lawyer friend. She told me, “Title IX is not just about sports. It says your college can’t make you leave school because you were raped and feel unsafe. They’re supposed to make sure the campus is not a sexually hostile environment.”

It seemed so sensible once she’d said it, but I’d never heard anything about my supposed right to a safe educational environment ever before.

Turns out, Title IX grants survivors of sexual assault a number of rights, by requiring schools to:

– Adopt known grievance procedures providing for prompt and equitable resolution of sexual violence complaints
– Investigate complaints, regardless of whether or not law enforcement is involved
– Provide alternate housing so that victims need not live in close proximity to their attackers
– Provide counseling, medical, and academic support services to victims

But too many colleges aren’t fulfilling their Title IX obligations. I have survivor friends who have been pressured into staying silent in all sorts of ways, from being gently dissuaded from going through a “really draining process” to being flat out told to shut up and go home.

And even when victims do speak up and file formal complaints, the response is often bleak. The Center for Public Integrity found that most students deemed responsible for sexual assault on college campuses face little or no consequences. At my college, only one student has ever been permanently expelled for rape—and that was only after he’d been sentenced to time in prison. In recent years, most students found responsible for sexual assault were suspended for two or four semesters. (A student found responsible for stealing a laptop was suspended for five.)

It’s been 40 years since Title IX became law. It is high time schools begin to take their legal obligations seriously and work to ensure that every student has a safe educational environment free from violence and harassment.

No one should have to be afraid to sleep in her own college dorm room.

Originally posted on the National Women’s Law Center blog

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  • Ariel @ at 4:23 pm, August 1st, 2012

    Holy cow. This is scary to me. My friend was kicked out of school for a little while, from holloween (after a party) till after the new year. It’s scary to me cause i don’ know why he was and he never told me why. He just said it was an extended holiday the school does.

  • Emma E @ at 4:17 pm, August 2nd, 2012

    Have you read The Mockingbirds by Daisy Whitney? It’s about a girl who gets raped on campus, and her school refuses to do anything about it, so she ends up going to an underground justice system. It’s really good, and the topics discussed are the same ones you’re talking about here.

    Anyway, I’m really, really sorry that happened to you. I believe that a lot of schools to virtually nothing for survivors–a private school near mine recently had a scandal where the school was covering up details of a sexual assault. I don’t know how well my school would react to it, but it’s done virtually nothing about the bullying that goes on, so I assume its response to this would be similar.

  • Jillian @ at 2:14 am, August 3rd, 2012

    I’m actually excited for this information. I passed legislation through my school student government this January requiring a review of sexual assault policies and forming a committee to determine ways to make our policy better. The student body President hasn’t enforced it yet, but I think this might encourage him.

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