Feminism | Posted by Sara Wong on 07/24/2013
On Being ‘Friends With Benefits’
The tricky thing about friends with benefits is that the lines you painstakingly set up get blurred so quickly; before you know it, there are no longer any lines discerning black from white — it is all just a pale shade of grey. You question all your emotions and when you start doing that, nothing is simple anymore. You constantly have to stop and think — the spontaneity that was once so attractive disappears. As the feelings increase, so does the hesitancy. And for me, the only time I felt truly comfortable was during sex, because we did not need to say a word. Too bad sex can’t last forever.
He knew he was hurting me — or rather, that our arrangement was detrimental to me. I hated the fact …
Feminism | Posted by Emily E on 07/22/2013
Why I Shared my Abortion Story With North Carolina Law Makers
My voice was trembling when I spoke the words “I decided to choose abortion.” I was telling my personal story and expressing my opposition of House Bill 695, a bill that would shut down all but one abortion clinic in the state of North Carolina. It started to hit me that I was in front of lawmakers, anti-choicers, supporters and television cameras. My legs started to go numb and my hands started to shake. I had to remind myself to look every lawmaker that has voted against women in the eye. Before I knew it, I was thanking them for their time and walking to my seat.
Every woman’s situation is unique, but my story is this: I was eighteen years old, a senior in high school, and I was …
Feminism | Posted by Alison L on 07/17/2013
The Job You Never Realized You Had
One time the engineering class at my all-girls high school (yes, my school was that awesome) went to a near-by all-boys school to hear a speaker give a presentation about entrepreneurship, financial independence and math/STEM related topics. At one point during the presentation he asked for the students who had jobs or work experience to raise their hands.
Almost all of the boys raised their hands… and almost none of the girls did.
It was a little jarring. Were girls lazier than boys? If we lacked job experience—what else did we lack? Is studying not enough? Is this why men have more opportunities and potentially better careers than women?
Before my thoughts spiraled into a full-fledged feminist identity crisis, my teacher turned to my classmates and shout-whispered to us, “Girls! …
Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Katie Mattie on 07/15/2013
Ever since I was little I’ve loved superheroes and action adventure stories. Whether it was a story about fighting the world’s darkest wizard in Harry Potter, teaming with The Avengers to save New York City, or becoming a master Pokémon trainer like Ash, I wanted to be the main character with the power to save the day. While aspiring to be a hero from stories like Harry Potter, The Avengers and Pokémon is a great way to build heroic qualities, my issue is that I’ve always found myself wanting to be a guy. I wanted to be Iron Man in the suit, not Pepper Potts. Why would you want to be the over protective girlfriend when you could be a daring, charming, genius in a nearly indestructible flying suit?
Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 07/13/2013
Saturday Vids: Jaclyn Friedman On Hate Speech On Facebook
Last month, awesome feminist activists Jaclyn Friedman of Women, Action and the Media (WAM!), author/activist Soraya Chemaly and Laura Bates of the The Everyday Sexism Project launched a campaign to encourage Facebook to strengthen policies about removing gender-based hate speech. Their eventual victory is a great example of what effective feminist activism looks like in the digital age. Here’s Jaclyn Friedman talking about the endeavor with GRITtv.
Feminism | Posted by Ruby O on 07/10/2013
Me: The Closet Feminist
I wrote before I knew women had to write under pseudonyms to get their books published.
And I rode my bike without knowing in some countries the ban on women doing so has only just been lifted.
I was a feminist before I knew of the stigma that comes with it.
I recently discovered I’d been a closet feminist my whole life. Not hiding from embarrassment or shame, but from a lack of motivation. Without the feeling I could actually change something. It hadn’t occurred to me that what I considered just to be me being overly opinionated, and a tendency to never shut my mouth, could potentially do some good. And it turned out I wasn’t the only one objecting to rape jokes, or to ‘lad’ culture, and there …
Feminism | Posted by Anonymous on 07/8/2013
Moving On From The Past
The summer after my freshman year of high school, I was sexually abused, harassed and almost raped. I do not want to go into how — it’s just not something I want to relive. I told my mom when I was a junior. Even then my friend had to send it to her in a note because I could not. After she got the note, she called me while I was at school and I told her what happened and who had done it. She hung up and called the authorities, even though I said I was okay.
Up until that point I had lived my life perpetually scared I would see him again and that he would hurt me. The last time I heard from him was sophomore year …
Feminism | Posted by Eve Rebil on 07/5/2013
Your Body Is Too Distracting: School Dress Codes and Slut Shaming
I’ve always hated the idea of dress codes. As a teen, I felt like it was an assault on my personal freedom. Unlike the rebellious stereotype however, I wore as many layers as I could. I frequently wore my father’s XL fleece jacket to school, even though it hung about my knees. It took me years to understand why I felt the need to bury myself in so much clothing, and just as much time to wear anything fitted. Growing up with a positive body image is hard enough these days, but doing so in a school environment where slut-shaming was not only condoned, but perpetrated by school administrators and parents is nearly impossible.
I am not alone with my experience. Lately, this issue has cropped up on the Huffington …