Feminism | Posted by Lizzie M on 10/28/2011

My Sexuality Is None Of Your Business, Thanks

Mount Holyoke

Mount Holyoke

Probably the most common thing I hear regarding my collegiate matriculation selection is one of a pejorative why I would ever, in-the-name-of-sanity, select to attend an all-female institution. Unsurprisingly, I have a lengthy and rather complicated reply that first must unpack the question (like a true Mount Holyoke Woman, assuredly). This answer, as you have no doubt gleaned, is one I am indirectly (but also directly) answering in these five posts illustrating facets to life here that I love.

However. This is, as the Buddhists would say, a question wrongly asked.

To begin: Mount Holyoke may exclusively admit women only, but not all of its students identify according to the gender binary, and some are in the midst of a sex change whilst at MHC. I am not …

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Feminism | Posted by Alli B on 08/12/2011

Male Bisexuals: As Common As Unicorns?

male bisexuality = unicorn? I dont think so.

male bisexuality = unicorn? I don't think so.

I know a lot of people – gay and straight – who believe that bisexuality, specifically bisexual men, exist about as much as they believe that unicorns exist. It seems that there are people who believe that only women can be bisexual and that women are more fluid than men when it comes to sexuality. They believe men can’t be bisexual, but are either gay or straight. Hell, a few years ago I didn’t even believe bisexuality was real and now I identify as bi.

I have big problem with this, and I mean a BIG problem. You might ask, “Why? You’re a woman, why should you care about bisexual men?” I care because I think the gender stereotypes and …

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Feminism | Posted by Alli B on 06/13/2011

I’m Bi and Super Fly!

bisexual pride

bisexual pride

What does being bisexual actually mean?

Thats the question I’ve asked myself for years, and last month I finally got an answer: I am bisexual and that’s okay!  I finally realized that I am sexually and emotionally attracted to both sexes and have been ever since the age of 13, if not younger. The thing is, I was taught by the media and by my religion that those feelings were wrong, that you were either gay, straight or lying.

I grew up confused. How could I like girls as much as I like boys?  Though I was never homophobic, I was taught that bisexuals were different; they were slutty girls who just wanted attention to make their conservative parents angry. Good girls aren’t bisexual because it’s a choice …

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Feminism | Posted by Sophie T.B. on 03/16/2011

The Hidden Difficulties of a Bisexual Teen

Ramona Flowers: one of the few representations of a bisexual girl in the media

Ramona Flowers: one of the few representations of a bisexual girl in the media

In my time as a semi-out bisexual teenager, I’ve encountered plenty of supportive, kind, loving people who have not cared about my sexuality or have been able to relate to me because of it. I’ve met plenty of people who don’t know much about bisexuality, but aren’t really against it either.

Those people I can deal with.

It’s the few people I’ve met who have prejudices against bisexual people, have huge misconceptions about us, or are very nervous around us because of above said misconceptions or prejudices that irk me greatly.

Its difficult being a bisexual teenager, and many straight individuals aren’t aware of or just don’t understand these difficulties. So, I’d like to let you …

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Feminism | Posted by Katherine C on 09/24/2010

Sexual Autonomy (A Request to Fellow Feminists)

Dont We Deserve More Options Than This?

Don't We Deserve More Options Than This?

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot- on the FBomb and elsewhere- about the “conflict” between promiscuity, “self-respect,” and feminism. I won’t pretend that it hasn’t disturbed me. My first though is always a knee-jerk, “We have more important things to worry about than how we handle our own personal sexualities!”

When I read feminists expressing what I see as a very self-righteous, holier-than-thou attitude regarding “overly sexual,” “promiscuous” women and how they are “hurting the feminist movement” (don’t they have any self-respect?! Why can’t they put on some goddamn underwear?! They are objectifying themselves, and giving the patriarchy permission to objectify womenkind!) I literally cringe at the control-freakiness of it all. But I likewise cringe when feminists write of the “self-empowerment” of pole-dancing, …

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Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Heather A on 09/14/2010

Bi-sibility

Jenny Schecter of the L-Word: bi-sibility...almost

Jenny Schecter of the L-Word: bi-sibility...almost

Usually when I first meet someone I never tell them I am bisexual. It never comes up in conversation. In fact I wait until I know that I can trust someone enough to tell them. I hate secrets because when I was young kept a lot of things from my parents, including my budding bisexuality. When I did tell them all I got was “Can’t you choose? Can’t you just be straight?” It was so typical. Basic biphobia for you.

When I watch T.V. people are either straight or gay: never both. We barely see bi people on T.V. or movies. When they do appear, they do not self-identify as bisexual. They’re just themselves. Meet Jenny Schecter of the L Word. First she is …

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