How I Freed Myself from Society’s Toxic Messages and Learned to Love Myself
“Um…so how do you do this emotional processing thing?”
I asked this question at 23 years old because I had never really heard of “emotional processing” until then. The way I dealt with my feelings were to repress them. It had been my way of coping with what had happened to me. It was how I had protected myself from all the pain and hurt that would explode inside if I let it out. It was how I silenced the swirling messages inside telling me I wasn’t enough.
But now that I was older, I was starting to recognize that it wasn’t healthy and that it was creating serious problems in my life. I couldn’t tell when things were getting toxic for me. I didn’t have any red flags going …
My name is Lexie and I am the Founder and Creative Director of Attention: People With Body Parts, an international body-positive initiative with an emphasis on book-making, letter-writing, and collaborative projects. The project started in 2012 when more than forty people were asked to write to their fingernails, their skin, their cancer. These are the parts that carry stories and histories that layer our lives. They make the individual self-construct and self-destruct, and ultimately make us move.
Throughout this summer, we are working towards our next book, Portable Homes. It will have an emphasis on survivors of domestic violence and intersecting communities who have been told or forced to believe that their bodies are not safe-spaces. From now until August 8, we are collecting letters that survivors have …
Feminism | Posted by UnpopularPerspective on 06/19/2013
On Having Big Boobs: My Anatomy Has Nothing To Do With My Morality
As a kid, I was taught to believe many restricting things about my body, but one stuck with me more than others: the bigger your boobs, the better — but they better be covered. I accepted that. Then, out of nowhere, I got boobs (at the age of fifteen, I now have have triple D’s). And everything changed.
For a long time, I hated them. My friends teased me about them, I got unwanted attention, and I couldn’t (and still can’t) find a bra that fits. But over the years, I’ve discovered some positive things about breasts. They aren’t just objects for men to drool over and indulge in as they please (although that’s how they’re almost exclusively portrayed by the media): they are a friggin miracle that nourish and …
beach season: when I really don't know how I feel about my body
I was getting ready for my birthday dinner. I was wearing my new favorite dress, with a sort of waffle-velvet thing going on, which was sleeveless and beautiful. As I put on my tiara (because, you know- I’m a princess), I noticed that between my arm and my dress, there was this sliver of flesh- some sideboob- that was absolutely disgusting.
When I thought this to myself, I was shocked. I generally love my body, because it can run, jump, feel pain, feel pleasure. It works for me, and our love is mutual. Most days, my body is my temple. I know that I am lovely. All 155 lbs. of it, size 6 or 8. My body …
In the United Kingdom (where I live), there is a daily national tabloid newspaper called The Sun. In it’s own words, The Sun provides readers with “the latest news and features – Showbiz, babes, celebrities, sport and racing, national and international news.” The word that I have decided to take issue with is ‘babes’ specifically because, for those who don’t already know, as well as tenuous ‘news’ The Sun regularly features a picture of a pretty girl with her bazukas out on page 3.
It’s long been an issue that has frustrated me. I am not surprised, shocked or even displeased that men – and women – like to look at boobs. Boobs are fascinating, boobs are life-giving, powerful, sexy and aesthetically pleasing, …
Saturday Vids: Andre’a – The 16 Year Old Body Image Role Model
This video needs little introduction - it speaks for itself - but I will say I originally saw this video on the website We Are The Real Deal and immediately wanted (want) to be Andre'a's best friend, because she is awesome, and we can all learn a thing or two from her confidence and positive message.