Just in case you haven’t seen this chart yet (via Jezebel and Feministing) it depicts the percentage of women who believe that their partner would be justified in hitting or beating them.
I know that the argument of “men are abused, too” always comes up when I bring up domestic violence. And it’s true, men are abused as well, and it’s a very serious problem.
But here’s the difference: what would this chart look like if men were asked the same question? How many men would think having their wife beat them would be okay?
Of course I can’t know the answer to that, and I could be proven wrong. Maybe men also think that it’s okay for women to abuse them, that they …
Happy Thursday! Here are some cool links I’ve deemed worthy of sharing:
The Good
Nikol Hasler from the Midwest Teen Sex Show apparently now writes an advice column for Milwaukee Magazine. I know what you’re thinking: Milwaukee Magazine has an advice column focused on issues of teen sex? MILWAUKEE is the progressive one who recognizes the sexual problems of teenagers, and all people for that matter, as truly important? WTF? Well, not quite. It’s pretty general advice for the most part, but it’s Nikol Hasler, so it’s awesome. Good job, Milwaukee, good job.
Here is one column focused on sex and here is the most recent one about forgetfulness. Archives here.
Also SARAH HASKINS HAS A NEW TARGET WOMEN. yayyayayayayyayay!!!! And apparently it was recently Sarah’s 30th …
So, I’m going on a road trip this weekend. While this does mean my Mom will let me eat whatever junk food I want (a rarity in our whole-wheat, non-fat household) and we will listen to trashy and insulting books on tape (“two sexy, young women in the big, bad city try to find love…”) it also means I will have zero access to the internet.
So, to tide you over for the weekend here is a really great documentary for your viewing pleasure.
“In the uplifting and multiple award-winning documentary, Searching for Angela Shelton, filmmaker Angela Shelton drives around the United States surveying other Angela Sheltons. She discovers that 24 out of the 40 Angela Sheltons she speaks to are survivors of rape, childhood sexual abuse and/or domestic violence. (The number jumped to 28 out of 40 when 4 more Angelas broke their silence after the movie was completed). On her journey the filmmaker meets an Angela Shelton who tracks sexual predators and lives in the same town as the filmmaker’s father, who sexually abused her and her siblings for years.
Angela Shelton’s survey of women becomes a journey of self discovery during which she decides to finally confront her own past and her abusive father – on Father’s Day. The Angela Sheltons complete the journey by teaching the filmmaker about healing, faith and the power of the human spirit, no matter what your name is. “
It’s a really great film. If you like it, please consider buying a copy here to support Angela and her work.
Also, Snagfilms, the website the documentary is listed at, is worth checking out. They have a ton of documentaries you can view for free, and have a whole section on documentaries about women’s issues.
The Obama administration recently created a new policy that allows foreign women who are the victims of severe domestic violence to receive asylum in the United States.
The policy outlines that to receive asylum, women must show that they are:
“treated by their abuser as subordinates and little better than property…and that domestic abuse is widely tolerated in their country. They must show that they could not find protection from institutions at home or by moving to another place within their own country.”
One such moving story is that of L.R. (identity protected), a Mexican woman who, according to San Francisco court documents, had an abusive partner who:
“made her live with him, and forced her to have sex with him by putting a gun or a machete to her head, by breaking …
Appointed: a White House advisor on violence against women
Obama just appointed Lynn Rosenthal, a former executive director of the National Netowrk to End Domestic Violence, to the position of “White House adviser on violence against women.” Apparently this is supposed to be follow-up on the 1994 Violence Against Women Act – which Biden was a key player in getting passed.
*around 2.5 million females experience some form of violence each year, and within this population 2 out of 3 have been attacked by a family member of a person with which they are acquainted.
*Every 21 days, a woman is killed by domestic violence
*in the U.S. a woman is beaten every 7.4 seconds
*there are 1,500 shelters for battered women in the U.S. while there are 3,800 animal shelters.
and so …
No, seriously. I don’t think I have to recap the Rihanna / Chris Brown debacle but just in case, here’s what allegedly happened in 15 seconds or less: There was a txt message from some girl to Chris Brown asking for a booty call, Rihanna saw it and got angry, they argued, she got out of the car, he pulled her back in and started to hit her. Violence ensued.
Let’s just get this out there: VIOLENCE IS NOT OKAY. IT IS NOT OKAY FOR A GUY TO HIT A GIRL, EVER.
But apparently this situation, aggravated tenfold by the stupid media, got even worse.
According to this article “Teenage Girls Stand by Their Man.”
One girl said that she “thought she [Rihanna] was lying …
