Feminism | Posted by Maya Richard-Craven on 08/8/2014

What Makes Asian-American Men ‘Undateable?’

When I look in the mirror, I do not see someone that I understand to be handsome by Western standards. I look mostly Asian, and like so many other heterosexual Asian males before me, I have internalized a lifetime of believing that my features, my face, my skin tone, in tandem, make me unattractive and undesirable.

- Noah Cho, “How I Learned to Feel Undesirable

Several studies have found Asian-American males to be the “least desirable” bachelors, a trend that may be exacerbated by a seeming across-the-board preference for dating Asian-American women by men of all races. The term Asian-American, in this case, covers a broad ethnic spectrum, including, but not limited to: “people who have origins in any of the original peoples of the Far East,

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Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 10/9/2009

How do young feminists make relationships possible?

I want to try a new type of post today. Usually, your comments are invited simply by the implications of the blogging system (yes…I did just say that) but today, reader Tinnie has a question for the many readers of the fbomb. Now, it is my personal opinion that the fbomb has the most kick ass, brilliant and wonderful readers in the history of blogging, so I know you’ll all do a fabulous job of answering.

Tinnie asks:

So...i was just wondering...are you a sexist pig, perchance?

"So...i was just wondering...are you a sexist pig, perchance?"

I’m sure this has crossed many young feminists minds. When I say, “young feminists”, I mean younger then 25 (very young I guess). How are we supposed to date men (specifically), when in the back of our minds we have that caution tape? …

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Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 07/13/2009

feminism and dating

I get why guys are afraid of feminists. I do. Many of us just get so worked up about the issues we may be perceived as…well, bitchy. Of course we’re not, we just care deeply about protecting and promoting our rights as women. Well, some of us are bitches, but we’re bitches that get shit done, that’s for sure. 

But you’d think, if you were dating a guy that knows you’re a feminist, supports your feminism, agrees with your feminism, that he’d be a feminist too, right? How could he not be? 

Jessica Wakeman at The Frisky posed the question: could you date a guy that doesn’t call himself a feminist?

To which I would respond: I’m friends with girls who support my feminism, believe in feminist issues and don’t …

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