There are so many little things we do that unconsciously lock us into the mindset that women are inferior. There are of course the big things that cause inequality that we obviously need to change, like the wage gap and violence against women, for example. But I feel like we can’t truly be equal until we also abolish all of the little sexist traditions that are so common. This can be anything from social conventions, like how men are expected to lead in dancing and pay for dates to the gendered way we use language, like calling a group of girls or a mixed group ‘guys’.
One of these issues that may seem small in context but is actually impactful is the convention that dictates that straight women should …
I’m not a fan of the whole heterosexual white wedding package. The sexism, gender roles and heteronormativity that generally come with it are far too problematic for me and the fact that this is what society likes to spoon-feed females practically from birth is troublesome. It starts with the Disney Princessmovies which feature weddings as the ultimate happily ever-afters. It continues with romantic comedy movies in which getting married is the central goal of the protagonist. And it continues in real life when your friends and relatives anxiously inquire when your ‘special day’ is going to be as soon as you reach a certain age and are in a relationship. Women are taught to aspire to marriage above all else, to crave it more than intellectual success or the
As soon as I heard about the new reality show “Bridalplasty” on E!, I knew I had to share its absurdity with other rational beings. On this show, engaged women compete in various wedding-themed challeges for two prizes. And what might they be? A free wedding and extreme plastic surgery. Able to phrase my disgust in a much more comical fashion is Erin Gibson in a segment of infomania’s Modern Lady, in which she dissects the issue.
I’m on a number of social networking sites, and on some of these, there are introduction threads. On one of these, they asked us state our long term goals and I wrote what I considered to be the basics.
- graduate from college
- get a job I don’t hate
- write and publish books
- hold the leaders of the free world hostage and make them listen to Abba
- beat Stephenie Meyer with a hard back copy of Breaking Dawn in a pillow case.
You know, the important stuff. But apparently I missed the memo. The one that says somewhere in the long-term goals section, a girl must list the desire to marry and procreate.
Just to set the record straight, I’m not going to say that the …