Feminism | Posted by Caitlin Templeton on 12/28/2016
I Fall In Love With One’s Soul, Not Their Gender
On being pansexual.
When I looked into the eyes of the first woman I ever liked — loved, even — I felt like I finally understood the famous words attributed to Edgar Allan Poe: “the eyes are the window to the soul.” I didn’t just see her, but myself; I saw a reflection of my own soul within hers. It was like a breath of fresh air — or maybe it wasn’t even that. Maybe I was just then breathing for the first time. And, my god, I didn’t even know how I was living before.
But as seemingly simple as my realization for my love for her was, realizing that those feelings meant I was also pansexual wasn’t easy at all. I didn’t wake up one day and decide, …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Sabrina N on 04/11/2016
What Kim Kardashian’s Nude Selfie Reveals About The Way We View Female Sexuality
In March, Kim Kardashian West posted a nude selfie on Instagram. As has come to be expected whenever a woman (especially a high-profile woman) does something with her body, people had a lot to say about it. While general backlash was perhaps expected, however, the number of women who shamed Kardashian was surprising to many — and on International Women’s Day, of all days. From Bette Middler’s straight-up degradation to Chloe Grace Moretz’s (slightly) more subtle condescension and shaming, Kardashian’s lighthearted selfie quickly evolved into something much bigger: a debate about female sexuality and what constitutes “good” feminism.
What we say when we talk about female bodies is often not what we really mean. When people say that Kardashian shouldn’t pose naked, they’re implying that Kardashian, a …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Sabrina N on 07/2/2014
On Preachers Daughters and Purity Culture
I recently marathoned Preachers Daughters, a new Lifetime reality show. Season One follows the lives of three different girls — Taylor, Olivia and Kolby — who all have at least one parent who is a preacher. While all girls are subject to purity culture based on their family’s beliefs, each reacts to this culture differently. Taylor feels restricted and chooses to rebel; Olivia, who has a baby, is now “on the right path”; Kolby attempts to live up to purity standards and even breaks up with a boyfriend in order to avoid future “temptation”. But while each girl follows a different path, they all show how purity culture can manifest destructively.
Although I was never involved with purity culture to the same extent as these girls, watching Taylor, Olivia …
Feminism | Posted by Vanessa W on 09/25/2013
Dear Mrs. Hall: In Defense of Teenage Girls
Dear Mrs. Hall,
Do you remember what it feels like to be a teenage girl?
Do you remember what it feels like to question every fiber of your identity?
Your body, the hand grenade. Your body, the playground.
Perhaps being a mother of teenage sons has scrubbed your memory clean of the plights of girlhood, of that terrifying transition from controlled chaos to the free-fall of adulthood, of that magical land where you are expected to shed your frivolous fears and anxieties like dead skin, like a knight’s rusted suit of armor. Perhaps you never experienced many catastrophes. Perhaps your adolescence was a snapshot of wholesome, homespun Americana, equal parts privilege and determined obliviousness.
But in your world, are girls the proverbial Eve, or are they simply human beings?…
Feminism | Posted by Mareike S on 11/26/2012
why am I so embarassed to buy condoms?
I guess the title already gives you a good idea what this post will be about, but bare with me while I explain how exactly I got to writing this post and chose this title.
You could say I’m a grown woman. I’m a few years older than my country’s legal age, I live in my own flat several hundred kilometers away from my parents and, yes, if I’m not in a committed relationship, I sometimes hook up with a guy if he’s my type and things click.
Now, I’m on the pill (which luckily is really, really easy to get if you live in Germany or anywhere else in Europe as far as I know), but there’s no one-night stands without …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Julie Z on 06/2/2012
Saturday Vids: Miley Cyrus on The Conversation
I’m not going to pretend like I haven’t been critical of Miley Cyrus / the Disney machine in the past. But I was recently watching an interview with Miley Cyrus on an episode of The Conversation, and I have to say: I was incredibly impressed. It seems like Miley has grown into a really independent, interesting young woman who is trying really hard to figure out who she is despite controlling pressures, specifically controlling pressures on her sexuality. I definitely recommend checking it out here or here (it’s the first 10 minutes…but then an interview with Melissa McCarthy follows and that’s pretty great, too).
Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Asasia R on 10/25/2010
Too Sexual or Not Sexual Enough?
lingerie football: respecting the choice
I recently saw a commercial for lingerie football. Basically, it’s a bunch of “hot”women running around playing tackle football in their underwear. At first I was appalled. Why is it that women don’t get to play football normally in the league and often at most high schools but they get the chance only when they’re doing it half naked? You don’t see men playing football in their underwear, so why do you see women? Isn’t that exploitation? Then, I realized that it’s their choice. If they feel confident in their sexuality and want to play football in their lingerie, that’s okay, they have the right. They are people, they are women, and they can do what they want with their bodies.
I saw …
Feminism | Posted by Katherine C on 09/24/2010
Sexual Autonomy (A Request to Fellow Feminists)
Don't We Deserve More Options Than This?
Lately, I’ve been reading a lot- on the FBomb and elsewhere- about the “conflict” between promiscuity, “self-respect,” and feminism. I won’t pretend that it hasn’t disturbed me. My first though is always a knee-jerk, “We have more important things to worry about than how we handle our own personal sexualities!”
When I read feminists expressing what I see as a very self-righteous, holier-than-thou attitude regarding “overly sexual,” “promiscuous” women and how they are “hurting the feminist movement” (don’t they have any self-respect?! Why can’t they put on some goddamn underwear?! They are objectifying themselves, and giving the patriarchy permission to objectify womenkind!) I literally cringe at the control-freakiness of it all. But I likewise cringe when feminists write of the “self-empowerment” of pole-dancing, …