Feminism | Posted by June S on 10/26/2015
My Experience Dating Someone with a Mental Illness
When I was 23 years old I dated two men at once. One taught me how I should be treated and the other taught me just the opposite. I regret neither relationship.
I met Noel first and he was everything I thought I wanted in a partner. He was smart, nice, and interesting and seemed to genuinely like me and care about what I had to say. We had a great first date: We ate brunch at a place he used to work. The food was really good. I remember that I ate avocado toast. He told me about his childhood. He said he grew up in Europe and moved to New York to become an actor about a year prior. I remember thinking he was really, really cute. As …
Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 10/23/2015
This Is The Conversation We Need To Have About Sex and Consent on Campus
The mainstream media has been fascinated with (especially female) college students’ sexuality for years. Rather than reflect the nuanced reality of their lives, however, women have largely been reduced to trends related to their technological dependence, ambition or attempts to achieve equality. But sex on campus is ultimately about something much deeper and complex: The way this generation realizes their sex lives can’t be divorced from the the paradoxical understanding of power with which this generation was raised.
Finally, one media outlet — New York Magazine — is recognizing this in their recently published feature Sex on Campus. The series aptly reveals how college students are embracing a variety of sexual identities that were largely unimaginable to even our parents’ generation. Students identify as asexual, sexually …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Aph Ko on 10/19/2015
Nick Jonas: Increasing the “Levels” of Objectification
The music video for “Blurred Lines” marked an important moment in our culture — not because of the (highly sexist) video itself, but because feminist and anti-racist critiques of the video were widely celebrated. Parodies of the music video highlighted the asymmetrical power dynamic between the clothed men and topless women, which in turn demonstrated how feminists were using digital media to resist patriarchal depictions of women. It seemed sexist men in particular had learned a valuable lesson: Women want to be more than topless, nameless, voiceless blow up dolls when included in men’s projects. It felt like our society was finally “getting” feminism.
Then I watched the new music video for Nick Jonas’ song “Levels.” The song seemed fun, catchy and a bit sensual, so I …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Kinder L on 10/12/2015
Why Matt McGorry Is A Great Role Model For Male Feminists
In March, Matt McGorry shared the dictionary’s definition of feminism on his Facebook Timeline. He explained that he was “embarrassed to admit that I only recently discovered the ACTUAL definition of ‘feminism’” and added that “the fact that the term is sometimes clouded with anything other that pure support and positivity in our society is very tragic.”
This post wasn’t just important because the actor publicly claimed the term “feminist,” but also because it encouraged those who, like him, are unsure of what “feminism really means” and are swayed by the negative connotations society attributes to feminists, to reevaluate how they feel about the term.
This Facebook post, however, was just the start of McGorry’s feminist journey. For example, McGorry decided to take on the controversy surrounding Instagram’s …
Feminism | Posted by Cheyenne T on 10/2/2015
What I Learned From Hearing Angela Davis Speak
A few weeks ago, I sat in the Chapel at Vassar College, surrounded by a multitude of individuals with varying intersectional identities and causes, listening to feminist scholar Angela Davis speak. The talk — entitled “Our Feminisms: From #occupy to #sayhername” — touched upon a variety of relevant issues, ranging from the Israel-Palestine conflict to #SayHerName to #BlackLivesMatter. Davis used black feminist theory to string many social justice movements together, arguing that our feminisms, whether state-sanctioned or not, are interwoven and have the potential to be transnational.
While the talk touched on many important points, a few particularly stuck with me. The first was that in order to revolutionize state systems and achieve true liberation, we need to dismantle, redefine and ultimately reimagine the systems on which they …
Feminism | Posted by Daphne S on 09/30/2015
Why We Need More Women Leaders
The Republican candidates
I recently came across a great piece of advice from the inimitable Mindy Kaling: Your image in high school, she observed, usually has very little to do with your success later in life. In fact, they’re usually inversely related. “Do what I did, which is stay in school and be a respectful and hardworking wallflower,” she wrote.
I completely agree with this and wish more young women strove toward lofty career goals rather than popular prom dates. To be fair, nerdiness has evolved quite a bit over the last few decades and it seems that popularity is no longer completely incompatible with being an honors student or valedictorian. But we can still progress, especially when it comes to leadership. The truth is, as much as feminists …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Aaron F on 09/28/2015
Why Do Sexists Hate The New ‘Ghostbusters’?
The new ‘Ghostbusters’ cast.
The announcement that a gender-swapped reboot of Ghostbusters will soon be in theaters has generated quite a bit of excitement. Considering the top-notch comedy actresses at the project’s helm, including Kristen Wiig, Melissa McCarthy, Kate McKinnon and Leslie Jones, the hype is likely justified. But this excitement isn’t universal: As so often happens whenever any media is centered on women, indignant and frustrated misogynists have decided to criticize the film on social media. The blatantly sexist responses of these pitiful man-babies — not to mention their attempts to rationalize their behavior — are likely produced by many causes, but the persistent sexism in both geek culture and the entertainment industry undoubtedly rank high among them.
Geek culture has become increasingly popular in mainstream pop culture over …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Saskia G on 09/18/2015
Girlpool: The Feminist Band You Need To Know
The musical duo Harmony Trividad and Cleo Tucker, also known as “Girlpool,” have a lot to say about the rigid expectations girls face growing up in America. Through unsettling harmonies and raw, creaking voices — accompanied only by a bass and guitar — they send a clear message: They’re fed up.
The duo’s first EP, which was released in November of 2014 with Wichita Records, tackles issues of gender and sexuality from a variety of angles and in a bare, untrained tone allows the listener to really hear what they’re saying. The song “American Beauty,” for example, examines the imperfect but liberating experience of discovering one’s sexuality, and affirms girls’ sexual desires. “Jane” empowers girls to speak up and seek genuine, fulfilling relationships: The last line, “If you are