Feminism | Posted by Sara Wong on 07/24/2013
On Being ‘Friends With Benefits’
The tricky thing about friends with benefits is that the lines you painstakingly set up get blurred so quickly; before you know it, there are no longer any lines discerning black from white — it is all just a pale shade of grey. You question all your emotions and when you start doing that, nothing is simple anymore. You constantly have to stop and think — the spontaneity that was once so attractive disappears. As the feelings increase, so does the hesitancy. And for me, the only time I felt truly comfortable was during sex, because we did not need to say a word. Too bad sex can’t last forever.
He knew he was hurting me — or rather, that our arrangement was detrimental to me. I hated the fact …
Feminism | Posted by Julie Z on 07/13/2013
Saturday Vids: Jaclyn Friedman On Hate Speech On Facebook
Last month, awesome feminist activists Jaclyn Friedman of Women, Action and the Media (WAM!), author/activist Soraya Chemaly and Laura Bates of the The Everyday Sexism Project launched a campaign to encourage Facebook to strengthen policies about removing gender-based hate speech. Their eventual victory is a great example of what effective feminist activism looks like in the digital age. Here’s Jaclyn Friedman talking about the endeavor with GRITtv.
Creative | Posted by Jordan96 on 07/12/2013
Life never passed more slowly than it did when I cried behind the football stands. Like a movie, the crowds cheered while I bowed my head in defeat, the music roared while my smile was muted. Small towns are bubbles to be popped at the break of innocence. “Life is good if you believe in goodness.”
But when a short, acne scarred boy approached me with venom in his eyes — there was nothing good about that day. When he told me rape was a woman’s fault — there was nothing good about that day. When he told me women should know better and protect themselves 24/7, all hours of the day, with guns in their hands — there was nothing good about that day.
Daddy’s girl had never cried …
Feminism | Posted by Ruby O on 07/10/2013
Me: The Closet Feminist
I wrote before I knew women had to write under pseudonyms to get their books published.
And I rode my bike without knowing in some countries the ban on women doing so has only just been lifted.
I was a feminist before I knew of the stigma that comes with it.
I recently discovered I’d been a closet feminist my whole life. Not hiding from embarrassment or shame, but from a lack of motivation. Without the feeling I could actually change something. It hadn’t occurred to me that what I considered just to be me being overly opinionated, and a tendency to never shut my mouth, could potentially do some good. And it turned out I wasn’t the only one objecting to rape jokes, or to ‘lad’ culture, and there …
Feminism | Posted by Anonymous on 07/8/2013
Moving On From The Past
The summer after my freshman year of high school, I was sexually abused, harassed and almost raped. I do not want to go into how — it’s just not something I want to relive. I told my mom when I was a junior. Even then my friend had to send it to her in a note because I could not. After she got the note, she called me while I was at school and I told her what happened and who had done it. She hung up and called the authorities, even though I said I was okay.
Up until that point I had lived my life perpetually scared I would see him again and that he would hurt me. The last time I heard from him was sophomore year …
Feminism | Posted by Eve Rebil on 07/5/2013
Your Body Is Too Distracting: School Dress Codes and Slut Shaming
I’ve always hated the idea of dress codes. As a teen, I felt like it was an assault on my personal freedom. Unlike the rebellious stereotype however, I wore as many layers as I could. I frequently wore my father’s XL fleece jacket to school, even though it hung about my knees. It took me years to understand why I felt the need to bury myself in so much clothing, and just as much time to wear anything fitted. Growing up with a positive body image is hard enough these days, but doing so in a school environment where slut-shaming was not only condoned, but perpetrated by school administrators and parents is nearly impossible.
I am not alone with my experience. Lately, this issue has cropped up on the Huffington …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Alice W on 07/1/2013
To Gossip Mags, Regarding Kim Kardashian
We made it! Kim and Kanye just had their daughter, and I think its fair to say that this is pop culture history. Like all great journeys to historical moments, there were some bumps along the way–like the way you treated Kim and her pregnant body. Remember all those headlines about her weight gain? I was mad about them then, and I’m mad about them now. Like, are you kidding me?
She had a person growing inside of her! She is a millionaire with like 15 businesses and she was promoting them while pregnant but you were just like “man, look at this fatty! She must be up to something!” I mean, God forbid a woman have the audacity to be in public while pregnant, right?
The outrage about her …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Julie Z on 06/30/2013
Support Women Artists Sunday: Shingai Shoniwa
Shingai Elizabeth Maria Shoniwa (born on 1 September 1981) is an English singer of Zimbabwean descent and best known as the vocalist and bassist for the UK indie rock band Noisettes. Her first name, Shingai, means ‘persevere’ in the Shona language.
Shoniwa grew up in a South London public-housing estate; her father died when she was 11, leaving her to a single mother who had emigrated from Rhodesia (now Zimbabwe). The experience, Shoniwa says, absolutely informs her music. “Wanting to escape from reality can inspire the greatest and most trivial creative natures in people,” and “I think escapism is something that connects all of us. Everybody has their own little soundtrack, and I guess I’m trying to make my own soundtrack to my escape plan. I want people to realize …