Feminism | Posted by Cheyenne T on 07/6/2015
The Complexity of Being A Black Feminist in a Relationship
On losing your first love.
It’s hard being alone after having been with someone for a long time. It’s hard to detach from your first love, to not have that person on whom you can rely for comfort, happiness and safety. You miss falling in love every time you see that person — your best friend — walk towards you.
I recently found myself in this situation, alone after almost two years of partnership. My boyfriend was mother and father, friend and lover to me. Losing all of those people at once — and knowing that he lost the same — was heartbreaking. But knowing that he was one less black man and I one less black woman the other could protect was the most heartbreaking part of all.
Feminism | Posted by Alec A on 04/1/2011
Why Homosexuality Is Perfectly Natural
A miniature Wild West town served as a backdrop to a very interesting thought. There is a scene in Rango where the eponymous character kisses his love interest, the sassy lizard named Beans. The two perform a perfectly heteronormative act in a theater packed with young children, and I thought about how they were all passively learning to recognize this as suitable conduct. I realized that I had been taught the exact same thing. Then I realized:
As a young boy, I was never taught to be attracted to men as a child. And yet now, as a teen, I identify as gay.
This may not seem particularly insightful in its condensed state, but this led me to ruminate further on how attraction could be taught to young children. Within …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Steph on 10/19/2010
Gender Policing and Justin Bieber
Justin Bieber: What his masculinity means about our society's views of femininity
“What is Justin Bieber doing out of the Kitchen?”
“It is an offence that we need to share the same gender as Justin Bieber”
“If Justin Bieber was a woman…oh wait, never mind”
“Leave Justin Bieber alone, stop making fun of HER!”
There’s more like this. Whether or not you like Justin Bieber’s music, you have to agree that there’s something wrong with the above facebook groups. Every single group that I listed at the start of this article has over five hundred members. That’s five hundred people who, if they don’t actively believe that, say, Justin Bieber should ‘stay in the kitchen’, felt that it was at least funny enough to become a fan of it on …
Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Heather A on 09/14/2010
Jenny Schecter of the L-Word: bi-sibility...almost
Usually when I first meet someone I never tell them I am bisexual. It never comes up in conversation. In fact I wait until I know that I can trust someone enough to tell them. I hate secrets because when I was young kept a lot of things from my parents, including my budding bisexuality. When I did tell them all I got was “Can’t you choose? Can’t you just be straight?” It was so typical. Basic biphobia for you.
When I watch T.V. people are either straight or gay: never both. We barely see bi people on T.V. or movies. When they do appear, they do not self-identify as bisexual. They’re just themselves. Meet Jenny Schecter of the L Word. First she is …
Feminism | Posted by Ashley P on 03/10/2010
Owning Up to My “Number”
the issue of the metaphorical little black book
A few days ago, I took a huge step in the self-confidence department. I was reading Jessica Valenti’s Full-Frontal Feminism (a particular favorite of mine) for the fifth time, and her chapter about women’s sexuality made me put down the damn book and go to my desk. Feeling extremely inspired, I sat down with a pen and paper and compiled my list, my “little black book”, so to speak. To some young women, this may not appear to be such a big deal. However, for me personally, writing each person’s name down and totaling the number was my defiant act of courage.
Since my senior year of high school, I have been considerably sexually active. The summer between my high school graduation …
Awareness, Feminism | Posted by Stephanie G on 08/17/2009
Back On Track
“And you know what they say–it’s in your DNA!”
-Avenue Q, “If You Were Gay”
I stumbled upon this rather classic questionnaire here:
I decided to fill it out both to
A) Have some fun looking at heterosexuality from a more, well, non heteronormative standpoint
B) Make a more serious point about some of the mistaken beliefs people hold about being LGBTQ/etc. and show the utter absurdity of asking some of these questions for anything more than philosophical reasons.
apparently there's no "straight pride" flag. somebody should tell the pope to get on that.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
Well, I don’t completely know. I guess you could say it was some kind of genetic thing, or the amount of hormones I was exposed to …