Feminism | Posted by Dayton Uttinger on 10/24/2016
The Problem With Saying Someone “Looks Like A Lesbian”
My style has nothing to do with my sexuality.
Apparently, if you cut off half of your hair, start playing rugby, spearhead a LGBTQA group on campus, begin obsessing over Orange is the New Black, and break up with your boyfriend all within the span of a year, people think you’re a lesbian. After each of these developments, I registered my mother’s raised eyebrows, my friends’ giggles, and questions like, “You know you look like a lesbian, right?”
Not that I expected any differently. I knew that my lifestyle (and style itself) was conforming to lesbian stereotypes every step of the way. I’d figured that out for myself after being hit on several times by other women (although, to be fair, half the social events I attended during college …
I am a proud lesbian and a proud feminist. I am able to say both of these things now, but it took me about as long to admit I’m a feminist as it did for me to admit that I’m gay.
I, like many other gay and straight girls, was afraid of calling myself a feminist because of the stigmas of sexuality that surround it. I was so afraid that everyone could tell I was gay and since I was not ready to admit it, I certainly was not going to do anything that led people to that conclusion (even if that assumption itself is ignorant). For years I had feminist values and acted like a feminist but refused to use …
Constance McMillen: I’m Sorry People Where You Live Seriously Suck
As if things don't suck enough for Constance McMillen in Itawamba County, where she was initially banned from her prom because she wanted to NOT have to hide the fact that she's gay and bring her girlfriend as her date...they just got a little worse. In case you missed the first post about Constance McMillen, here's her appearance on the Ellen DeGeneres show to catch you up:
So, when things were looking like they might turn around the fine people of Itawamba decided that that couldn't possibly happen. Clearly, the outrage of such OFFENSIVENESS as a gay couple (21st century people...21st century) called for the parents to get involved and do something truly heinous.
Man Hater. Lesbian. Outspoken. Beautiful. Overtly Sexual.
In my young life, I have been called many of these things. At first glance, it’s not easy to see how man hater fits with beautiful, or overtly sexual fits with man hater, if lesbian isn’t attached. Am I a man hater? No. I have plenty of guy acquaintances, you could even —gasp— call them good friends. Am I a lesbian? Well, I don’t care for labels. I have never fallen in love, and love has no gender limits. Am I outspoken? Well people have definitely hit the nail on the head with this one. I’m not afraid to call out injustices, I’m not a afraid to be called out on my opinions. I’m not going to ever limit myself to …