Feminism | Posted by Ria D on 12/17/2012

Does It Make Me A Bitch To Turn Him Down?

In the midst of last year’s prom frenzy, as I was pulling my car out of the parking lot and waiting in line to leave, one of my friends popped into my car for a chat. He was irate: “Have you heard about Alex?” Before I got the chance to respond, he was off on a rant about how two guys had asked her to prom and she had said no to both of them, which of course makes her a gigantic bitch. He quickly figured out he was ranting to the wrong person because I set him straight: just because Alex turned both guys down, it didn’t make her any less of a good person. He argued with me about how both guys made such a big effort for …

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Feminism | Posted by Nellie B on 05/24/2010

Prom and Assimilation

As a senior in high school, I am less than ecstatic about senior year and its attendant rites.  That’s right: it’s prom time.

It’s a fortuitous year to be queer and prom-bound, as Constance McMillen has brought the issue to the forefront of America’s pop culturally-inclined social consciousness.  You may have heard this already: McMillen asked to take her girlfriend to prom.  School went nuts, canceled their prom, then sent Constance to a fake prom with other excluded kids while the rest of the class partied in secret.  The one-two punch of bigotry and cruelty sent buzz not just through the gay community but the media at large.  Impassioned Facebook groups such as “Let Constance Take Her Girlfriend to Prom!” sprouted up, along with offers of an alternate prom paid …

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Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Laura H on 04/28/2010

Prom, Dresses and Body Image Issues

I’m looking for a prom dress at the moment. Okay, maybe I’m not. Perhaps a more accurate description of my current activities is that I’m writing this lot a rambling spiel, whilst conveniently skiving off looking for prom dresses on the internet. Well, shoot me.

To tell you the truth, going to the prom is pretty high on my scale of “things I don’t really want to do but feel I really should”. I have never expressed a burning desire to dress up like some sort of tragically imperfect reject Barbie doll and totter around in heels that I can’t even walk in, trying to give the impression that my lumbering around the dance floor is not an inept stagger, but a waltz, and nor am I ever likely to. …

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Pop-Culture | Posted by Jessie W on 04/26/2010

Prom and New Opportunities: Setting Ourselves Up To Fail?

My mother is a wonderful, funny woman. She has several interesting stories from her past which she shares with me, including one about prom. For her prom, she decided to go dressed in a long, powder blue dress. Her date somehow managed to catch his matching powder blue jacket in the car door and was a half hour late because his mother attempted to get the tar out by bleaching it, turning the entire side of the jacket white. My mother and her date went to a fancy restaurant and her date began to scream that he was dying due to a small piece of glass in his Boston cream pie. As if the night couldn’t get any more exciting, another girl at the prom wore the same dress as …

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Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Kate S on 04/21/2010

The Asking

It’s time for prom! I’ve refused to go prom all these years but decided to go this year since it’s my senior year. Besides, the prospect of mocktails is just too much to decline…

Anyway, I’m always fascinated and agitated by the prom traditions. Having emigrated from Korea seven years ago, prom is something still foreign to me and since this is going to be my first and last prom, I can’t say that I’m not secretly excited for it. I’ve reserved a table with a few good friends and without any pressure of dates, we’re going to spend a jolly good time (in other words, I hope to spend a ninety-dollar-worth of time).

Inevitably, I started noticing a sequence of flamboyant “asking.” Without hesitation, boys assume the role of …

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Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Julie Z on 04/7/2010

Constance McMillen: I’m Sorry People Where You Live Seriously Suck

As if things don’t suck enough for Constance McMillen in Itawamba County, where she was initially banned from her prom because she wanted to NOT have to hide the fact that she’s gay and bring her girlfriend as her date…they just got a little worse. In case you missed the first post about Constance McMillen, here’s her appearance on the Ellen DeGeneres show to catch you up:

So, when things were looking like they might turn around the fine people of Itawamba decided that that couldn’t possibly happen. Clearly, the outrage of such OFFENSIVENESS as a gay couple (21st century people…21st century) called for the parents to get involved and do something truly heinous.

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Pop-Culture | Posted by Julie Z on 03/26/2010

Josh Shipp on Prom

Hey everybody! So I’m doing the whole college visit thing this week so posting may be a little slow…also I don’t have that many submissions to draw from at the moment *cough cough submit stuff to juliez@thefbomb.org cough cough*

So I just thought I’d share teen advice guru Josh Shipp’s words of wisdom about prom, since that seems to be right around the corner.

If you’ve never heard of Josh Shipp, he’s actually this really awesome motivational speaker and teen advice dude. This is his deal:

He talks to teens as if they are equals and not naive morons as many adults tend to, and for that I’m thankful. This is his official site,  this is his teen advice site, and I hear he’s coming out with a book later …

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Awareness | Posted by Julie Z on 03/18/2010

Lesbian Teen Banned from Prom

I’m sure a lot of you have heard about this story by now but I had to blog about it. Apparently the school district of Itawamba County in Mississippi would not allow Constance McMillen, 18, to attend her prom  wearing a tuxedo and with her girlfriend. Constance was told by her assistant principal that she may be able to get away with escorting her girlfriend if she were to bring a bunch of guys…you know to cancel out / hide their lesbianism, or something. The superintendent suggested that the girls attend the prom separately, wearing dresses, and avoid each other completely lest they “push people’s buttons.”

Now this would be repulsive enough if these were merely the suggestions of misguided authority figures. But the fact is, the district actually has …

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