Feminism | Posted by Vicki S on 01/9/2016
How To Put Your Resolution of Self-Love Into Action in the New Year
It’s harder than it seems.
I have always struggled with New Year’s resolutions because they so often revolve around losing weight — to look “good” in that bikini this summer and to achieve that “perfect body.” I am no stranger to negative body image spirals and have obsessed over my diet, frequently compared myself to others and allowed toxic messages from all intersections to infiltrate my mind. Given that we already live in a society plagued by -isms that constantly marginalize us in a variety of other ways, too, these negative forces work in particularly strong conjunction to bring my own self-esteem down around the beginning of January.
For the first time, however, I feel I’ve heard fewer conversations about what people want their bodies to look like and how …
Feminism | Posted by Cheyenne T on 10/2/2015
What I Learned From Hearing Angela Davis Speak
A few weeks ago, I sat in the Chapel at Vassar College, surrounded by a multitude of individuals with varying intersectional identities and causes, listening to feminist scholar Angela Davis speak. The talk — entitled “Our Feminisms: From #occupy to #sayhername” — touched upon a variety of relevant issues, ranging from the Israel-Palestine conflict to #SayHerName to #BlackLivesMatter. Davis used black feminist theory to string many social justice movements together, arguing that our feminisms, whether state-sanctioned or not, are interwoven and have the potential to be transnational.
While the talk touched on many important points, a few particularly stuck with me. The first was that in order to revolutionize state systems and achieve true liberation, we need to dismantle, redefine and ultimately reimagine the systems on which they …
Pop-Culture | Posted by Susannah F on 02/14/2014
This Valentine’s Day, Treat Yo Self
Each Valentine’s Day I can count on one thing: a bouquet of flowers from my mom. This bouquet used to make me feel lame, lonely, not loved in any “real” romantic, non-mommy way. As a feminist I have always wrestled with the significance of Valentine’s Day in my life, not just because it’s a commercial holiday based on consumerism and patriarchal customs, but because the day has never made me feel good or loved.
I did some quick research into the history of Valentine’s Day and it turns out that the day now associated with chocolate and roses dates back to the 5th century. The Roman holiday Lupercalia consisted of men sacrificing a goat and dog, then whipping women with the hides of animals they had slaughtered because they …
Feminism | Posted by Sandra Kim on 09/10/2013
How I Freed Myself from Society’s Toxic Messages and Learned to Love Myself
“Um…so how do you do this emotional processing thing?”
I asked this question at 23 years old because I had never really heard of “emotional processing” until then. The way I dealt with my feelings were to repress them. It had been my way of coping with what had happened to me. It was how I had protected myself from all the pain and hurt that would explode inside if I let it out. It was how I silenced the swirling messages inside telling me I wasn’t enough.
But now that I was older, I was starting to recognize that it wasn’t healthy and that it was creating serious problems in my life. I couldn’t tell when things were getting toxic for me. I didn’t have any red flags going …