Feminism | Posted by Carmen M on 08/24/2012

“You’re A Virgin? I Really Respect You For That.”

virginity does not equal purity

As you get older, more and more of your peers have sex. I’m currently 19 and know plenty of people who haven’t had sex. But because of the media’s stereotypical portrayal of young people as raging sex addicts, many people my age exaggerate about their sexual experience either to impress others or just to appear as if they’re “keeping up”.

But honestly, I don’t want to rant about people my age and sex. Frankly, I don’t care whether or not you have or haven’t had sex. I lost my virginity in February during a one night stand. I was 18. I know the social repercussions of being a virgin (a ‘late bloomer’) as well as the repercussions of being a slut. What I want to …

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Feminism, Pop-Culture | Posted by Marie B on 10/21/2011

FBomb Talks Sex: First, Do You

sometimes, alone time is a good thing

sometimes, alone time is a good thing

When I was fourteen, my dad told me that the most important thing I would ever learn was how to be alone. Granted, he said this as he took away my cell phone, Facebook and cut off all ties I had to the outside world. I was crushed to say the least. At the time, high-school-freshman-me felt like my dad was completely overreacting to the fact that I had made out with a boy, especially since he was my boyfriend. That meant something, right? And my friends had all kissed boys, so I didn’t understand why it wasn’t okay that I had, too.

However, the time spent on my virtual desert island, as sucky as it was, really allowed me time to think. …

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Feminism | Posted by Katherine C on 09/24/2010

Sexual Autonomy (A Request to Fellow Feminists)

Dont We Deserve More Options Than This?

Don't We Deserve More Options Than This?

Lately, I’ve been reading a lot- on the FBomb and elsewhere- about the “conflict” between promiscuity, “self-respect,” and feminism. I won’t pretend that it hasn’t disturbed me. My first though is always a knee-jerk, “We have more important things to worry about than how we handle our own personal sexualities!”

When I read feminists expressing what I see as a very self-righteous, holier-than-thou attitude regarding “overly sexual,” “promiscuous” women and how they are “hurting the feminist movement” (don’t they have any self-respect?! Why can’t they put on some goddamn underwear?! They are objectifying themselves, and giving the patriarchy permission to objectify womenkind!) I literally cringe at the control-freakiness of it all. But I likewise cringe when feminists write of the “self-empowerment” of pole-dancing, …

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Feminism | Posted by Emily V on 06/25/2010

Self Respect and Sexting

you have a phone...use it to CALL YOUR SENATOR not to take naked pictures!

you have a phone...use it to CALL YOUR SENATOR not to take naked pictures!

Self Respect is a dying art. This thought was solidified when I heard the latest gossip in my school of the sex video going around of a fellow female student with two other guys. As we see a rise in “sexting” and the CDC saying that one in four teenage girls has an STD, I can’t help but feel depressed and frustrated . So how did we get this way and better yet how are we to combat this issue?

At my highschool, I have sat through the numerous internet safety lectures. ” Once it’s out there you can never get it back.” This doesn’t seem to stop many girls from taking pictures of themselves …

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