The summer after my freshman year of high school, I was sexually abused, harassed and almost raped. I do not want to go into how — it’s just not something I want to relive. I told my mom when I was a junior. Even then my friend had to send it to her in a note because I could not. After she got the note, she called me while I was at school and I told her what happened and who had done it. She hung up and called the authorities, even though I said I was okay.
Up until that point I had lived my life perpetually scared I would see him again and that he would hurt me. The last time I heard from him was sophomore year …
People often ask me why, as a man, I am so passionate about women’s rights. The answer is that I got into women’s rights because I have seen so many women put through so many horrible things. There is so much that women go through that most men don’t have to worry about.
I have dated survivors of abuse and sexual violence. I have many friends who are survivors of assault. I have seen the way it destroys their lives. Almost every girl I know has been cat called and verbally harassed on the street. Almost every girl I know feels or has felt ugly because of the media and society setting impossible standards of beauty. It hurts me seeing such naturally beautiful women …
When I first read this article on Experimentations of a Teenage Feminist, the first thing I said to myself was “good God.” It wasn’t a good “good God.” It was a BAD “good God.” A REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, HORRIFICALLY BAD “good God.”
Apparently, parts of Kanye West’s upcoming music video for the single “Monster” were leaked online. (I would like to point out that the album’s title is My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy.) In the video, half-naked women are drugged or dead, hanging from chains, as West, Jay-Z, Rick Ross, and Bon Iver make sexual advances towards them. Nicki Minaj also makes an appearance in the video.
The lyrics of the song are pretty bad, too. Bon Iver asks, “Are you willing …
When the Perpetrator Goes Free and the Victim Is Imprisoned
the punishment for being raped?
It seems impossible but it’s true: although her sentence has just been overturned, in Britain recently, a woman was sent to jail for accusing her husband of rape, then retracting the accusation.
Although this story has received little coverage except in The Guardian, a left-wing daily national, it caught my eye at once. The story goes like this: the woman, ‘Sarah’, was being repeatedly abused by her husband. One night, after brutally raping her, she summoned up the courage to dial 999 and her husband, ‘Ray’, was arrested. However, one year on, it was Sarah who was sent to prison and Ray who walked free.
After Ray was arrested, Sarah was put under increasing pressure to retract the rape allegation. This she did, after …
When I was twelve, I was the only person I knew of who knew people who had been affected by sexual abuse. When it had been disclosed to me, I didn’t know what to do with the information, and didn’t even write about it in my journal. Until high school, the only person I told was my best friend, and we talked about it only once. Twelve year olds tend to not know what to do with that kind of stuff. As I got older, the number of people that I knew who had been affected by sexual abuse, unfortunately, grew. In high school I learned that a friend of mine had been sexually abused and was having difficulties dealing with her Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, her family, her abuser, …
Last Sunday, gossip blogger Perez Hilton made the controversial decision to post a photo of Miley Cyrus exiting a car on his twitter, implying that she was not wearing underwear. Now, the internet is firing back, with claims that Perez could go to jail under child pornography charges.
Initially, when I heard about this story, I was pretty disgusted. What an idiot Perez Hilton must be, I thought to myself, so obsessed with attacking people that he doesn’t know where to draw the line. I’m not a fan of Perez or Miley – they both annoy me in general – but seriously? Posting a photo of anybody in a sexual way without their permission is just wrong. But as commenters on the blogosphere, …
Emilie Autumn is an American singer-songwriter, poet and musician. The Los Angeles-born musician is also eccentric and label-defying in the best possible way.
As a young girl, it was Emilie´s dream to become a top-notch violinst. At fourteen, she entered the Music Conservatory at Indiana University, but she left after two years because her opinions on individuality in classical music clashed with those of The Powers That Be. Emilie contributed backing vocals and violin to Courtney Love and Billy Corgan´s 2003 and 2004 albums, respictively. 2003 she released a full-length album called Enchant, which was re-released in 2007 and is now available on iTunes. Her songs have also been featured on the Saw 3 and Saw 4 soundtracks. She has been named one of “14 Artists to Watch” …
So, I'm going on a road trip this weekend. While this does mean my Mom will let me eat whatever junk food I want (a rarity in our whole-wheat, non-fat household) and we will listen to trashy and insulting books on tape ("two sexy, young women in the big, bad city try to find love...") it also means I will have zero access to the internet.
So, to tide you over for the weekend here is a really great documentary for your viewing pleasure.
My pick: Searching for Angela Shelton.
"In the uplifting and multiple award-winning documentary, Searching for Angela Shelton, filmmaker Angela Shelton drives around the United States surveying other Angela Sheltons. She discovers that 24 out of the 40 Angela Sheltons she speaks to are survivors of rape, childhood sexual abuse and/or domestic violence. (The number jumped to 28 out of 40 when 4 more Angelas broke their silence after the movie was completed). On her journey the filmmaker meets an Angela Shelton who tracks sexual predators and lives in the same town as the filmmaker's father, who sexually abused her and her siblings for years. Angela Shelton's survey of women becomes a journey of self discovery during which she decides to finally confront her own past and her abusive father - on Father's Day. The Angela Sheltons complete the journey by teaching the filmmaker about healing, faith and the power of the human spirit, no matter what your name is. "
It's a really great film. If you like it, please consider buying a copy here to support Angela and her work.
Also, Snagfilms, the website the documentary is listed at, is worth checking out. They have a ton of documentaries you can view for free, and have a whole section on documentaries about women's issues.
Searching for Angela Shelton Crisis Support Hotline Numbers